Marcus Neo:
So, hi, this is Marcus from marcusneo.com and I’m here with Darren. He’s been a client for a month now. So, just like asking about his progress, his results so far since starting the program with me, so feel free to speak about whatever you’ve gone through.
Darren:
So, Marcus, I think you knew that when I first joined this program, I just suffered a very significant heartbreak. I’m 31 this year but I’ve only been in one relationship so far and it lasted me for eight years. So I was in a state where I’d forgotten how to date, how to interact in the most interesting manner with females, and I think a huge part of me was also a very rigid person. It may be difficult to people with my background where we always very… we’re driven. We’re so much for personal, what we do at work and we don’t really give other areas of our lives much attention.
Darren:
So these are the things that contributed to my personality and my character. After coming to your course, you challenged me to go out to talk to strangers, especially females, for social reasons which is something that I’ve never done before. And that seriously challenged me to step out of my comfort zone. You taught me about this thing called progressive desensitization approach. I think that’s really awesome. Honestly, for me it freaked me out to want to just approach an attractive female that I bump into on the street, and that to me initially I felt like dying rather than go over and approaching her to talk.
Darren:
So really I was pushed to challenge myself to develop this area of weakness in my life. I think it’s a very useful skill, not just for dating purposes, but also it is a transferable skills in other areas of life, maybe in the area of professional growth as well for professional networking. I think where I was, so I suffered a breakup many months back, and after attending your course, I took up the challenge to go on dating apps, so I bumped into a girl through Tinder and from there I tried applying some of the theories and lessons that I learned through your course, and it went well. And I was able to click with this girl, and today we have been able to go on dates and I figure that it’s a huge progress for me by the way.
Marcus Neo:
Nice. So, happy to hear that, but like I say, it’s not just about the coaching and it’s not just about in a day it’s my orders, so special benefits that you get from this program. You spoke about this, that the long term vision about it as opposed to just coming in and, “Oh, I just want to date 10 girls or date 15 girls.” So could you explain a bit a about that, about how it changed your career, your take on things, the different metrics that you spoke about, prior to this little session.
Darren:
So I think at the very beginning of it, the very fundamental core of the theories that you included is the fact that the way how we behave today is very much a result of what we went through in life. Particularly in my case, it was because of challenges in my upbringing, because my parents, they were divorced and they were divorced when I was at a very young age, that really caused a huge impact to me in my life. So that resulted in a lot of limiting beliefs for me where kind of my self esteem was low.
Darren:
Perhaps I wasn’t mindful enough of this so I did not take more action to work on that, but I think what happens after going through your courses is that I reflect more on some of these areas that I need to work on and strategies to work on it, what kind of environment I need to put myself in to slowly develop, and some of the approaches that you recommend to take action on, where I’m supposed to approach professional health services, so I did. Went for certain sessions of psychotherapy to work on shortcomings of my personality, which wasn’t great for relationships.
Darren:
And not just for dating purposes, but relationships. It can penetrate to different areas of our career, our professional work. So I find that particularly helpful.
Marcus Neo:
Yeah. Awesome, right. We’re done.