Here is a list of books you can get started. They’ve had considerable impact on me in my learning process=

Dating and Relationships

  • Models – Mark Manson

Psychologically reseached dating advice for men.

  • No More Mr Nice Guy – Robert Glover

Robert Glober is a psychologist that suggests that your ‘niceness’ has it’s roots in your childhood and upbringing.

  • The Way of the Superior Man – David Deida

I normally don’t like the woo-woo self helpish, new agey stuff but David Deida’s, The Way of the Superior Man is a must read.

  • Subtle At of Not Giving a Fuck – Mark Manson

  • 12 Rules for Life: Antidote to Chaos – Jordan Peterson


  •  Man’s Search for Meaning – Victor Frankl

This book came at a handy time. I had to find meaning in my pursuits. I was getting sick of getting grades in school just to be ‘useful’ to society, as parents, culture and society told me.

  •  The Happiness Hypothesis – Jonathan Hiadt

The most influential idea I got out of this book is on how negative emotions such as anger, disgust and jealousy actually have an important place in our lives.

Shame, Trauma and Therapy

  • Your Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma –  Bessel van der Kolk M.D

This is a book that’s backed by research on how your body is affected by shame, trauma and repressed emotions. I liked this book because it’s backed by research, something that’s important to keep in mind in the field of psychology.

  • The Drama of the Gifted Child

I liked the psychoanalytic prose of this book, the author touched grandiosity, depression and how they are two sides of the same coin. The author also used many examples across history and literature.

  • The Deepest Well: Healing the Long Term Effects of Childhood Adversity

Published by a medical doctor who used the psychotherapeutic process to help her patients that she once treated prescription hard medication.

  • Alan Rappoport, Ph.D. – Co Narcissism

Insightful article on the psychology of self esteem, parent child relationship.


  • Denial of Death – Ernest Becker

I didn’t finish the book, due to its tough prose. It can be quite a depressing read. However, the general ideas in the book left a huge impact on my life and it’s a must read.

  •  This Is Water – David Foster Wallace

David Foster Wallace’s commencement speech and how to better perceive the daily struggles of life.

  • Skin in The Game – Nassim Taleb


  • Steve Jobs – Isaac Walterson

Steve Jobs is one heck of a controversial leader who pushed the boundaries of buiness and technology in his time.

  • Einstein – Isaac Walterson 

I liked this book because Einstein was always challenging academia and refused to conform to anything but objectivity. He sacrificed relationships, job, education prospects in the name of an independent mind.


  • Narcissus and Goldmund – Hermann Hesse
  • Siddhartha – Hermann Hesse